…find a love for identity politics…so that we can draw battle lines between those who want shame to grow on trees and those who want to overcome it.
Insightful monologue on shame and vulnerability starting @51:00.
More on shame:
Shame is toxic. It is the difference between “sorry I did” and “sorry I am.”
Guilt is feeling bad about something you did, something you can fix. Shame is feeling bad about who you are.
Shame cuts off connection and thrives on hiding.
Dyslexia is a particularly powerful form of shame, and it involves a lot of vulnerability.
Vulnerability can be defined as true courage.
Shame is a very lonely moment.
Reading disabilities often match in intensity the level of shame associated with incest.
Dyslexia is a perfect storm of shame.
- Arrives at the time you are first being evaluated.
- Made harsher by lack of explanation. Fail without context.
- Reinforced by peers and institutions
Source: Ben Foss on Dyslexia and Shame
The closet can only stop you from being seen. It is not shame-proof.
And that is what happens when you soak one child in shame and give permission to another to hate.
Source: Hannah Gadsby: Nanette – Netflix
We should spend more time talking about how we change the environment that surrounds people and not the people themselves.
Source: The Gift: LD/ADHD Reframed
“Any authority within the space must be aimed at fostering agency in all the members of the community. And this depends on a recognition of the power dynamics and hierarchies that this kind of learning environment must actively and continuously work against. There is no place for shame in the work of education.”
Source: Dear Student
Along with phrases appropriated directly from the so-called alt-right, a small group of neotraditionalist educators have invented the concept of ‘school shaming’ to make their reactionary politics seem, well, less reactionary. Criticize a school for how it treats students, and you’re ‘school shaming’. Talk about structural racism and curriculum, and you’re playing ‘identity politics’. Oppose calls to shore up the authority of teachers in the face of supposedly out-of-control youth, and you’re ‘virtue-signalling’.
‘Slut shaming’ is an attack on women and their identity in a patriarchal society; it’s part of a power dynamics meant to keep women in their place. By extension, we might imagine that the phrase ‘school shaming’ similarly works to expose a harmful power dynamic where schools who publicly advocate for ‘zero tolerance’ policies towards students are somehow oppressed by people who criticize those policies on social media. However, the concept of ‘school shaming’ gets the power dynamics exactly backwards: schools that shame students through authoritarian discipline policies should be open to criticism. Ironically, those who use the phrase ‘school shaming’ are looking for a nuanced and sympathetic treatment of ‘zero tolerance’ schools that the students who attend those schools are denied. Unlike the empty concept of ‘school shaming’ which seems to have been invented by Andrew Smith (@oldandrewuk), ‘student shaming’ functions as a critical concept to name what has long been called ‘deficit thinking’ about students. When a school looks for teachers who “know how to act appalled over the little stuff”, that’s in effect asking for teachers who know how to shame students.